“Dazzle” by Mimi Stuart ©
Live the Life you Desire
So what I really meant was…
“Let’s go dancing!”
Exaggeration and blame make a person feel defensive instead of accommodating. Self-pity is unattractive—definitely not a seductive way to get someone to want to go dancing with you!
When people show confidence and excitement, they have a lot more magnetism than when they complain. Expressing desire is more effective than expressing discontent. So communicate in a positive, irresistible way:
“I’d love it if you came dancing with me tonight/next week/every Saturday!”
If the answer is “no,” find someone else to go dancing with, go on your own, or find something you both want to do together—but express yourself in a positive way, remembering that the goal is to enjoy your time together.
by Alison Poulsen, PhD