“The Kiss” by Mimi Stuart ©
Live the Life you Desire
A relationship is made up of a history of interactions between two people. All of the daily moments, glances, words, and focus of energy add up to create your relationship. Consider what kind of interactions your relationship consists of primarily:
Connection,
Collaboration,
Cuddling,
Caring,
Conversations, and
Compliments,
“Concentration—Jack Nicklaus” © by Mimi Stuart
In ten minutes, you can organize one drawer, go through one box of stuff you’ve been storing, make one difficult phone call or walk around the block.
Disarray muddles the mind. Your untidiness may be
• Physical — in a jumble of boxes in the garage,
• Mental — in pressures that need to be dealt with, or
• Emotional — dreaded obligations that need to be addressed.
“Lady Liberty” by Mimi Stuart ©
Live the Life you Desire
It feels good to help someone who’s having problems with another person. However, inserting yourself into a conflict between two people can cause more harm than good. When you find yourself listening to complaints or gossip about someone’s relationship to a third person, you may find yourself being triangulated.
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“Mr. Hole-in-One” Kevin Sorbo by Mimi Stuart ©
Live the Life you Desire
When you dread confronting a difficult situation, such as telling your partner you’ve spent too much money, the sooner you face up to it, the better. For some people though, avoidance behavior contributes further to putting off the unpleasant task. Avoidance behavior includes distraction, escape behavior, procrastination and safety behavior.
Types of Avoidance Behavior
1. Distraction involves busying yourself and your mind with activities or thoughts to avoid confronting a problem — making phone calls, eating, shopping, and social media — basically twittering away your time.
2. Escape behavior consists of contriving a way to physically avoid an anxiety-provoking situation, such as faking an illness. Continue reading
“Joy” by Mimi Stuart ©
It turns out that this kind of thinking is reversed. It actually works the other way around. If you decide to be happy, then your job and your relationships are likely to be successful and fulfilling.
People who are happy feel better, focus better, think more clearly, have better access to all regions of their brains, have quicker more agile responses to changing circumstances and solve problems better. Happy people are more empathetic and creative, which means they will be more diplomatic, interesting and enjoyable to be around.
In essence, happy people perform better at work and have better relationships.
How do you make yourself happy? Continue reading