If someone says, “Did you see all the stuff I did for you today?” ignore your impulse to get defensive or to …
John Gottman’s research shows that the first three minutes of a discussion determines the tone and direction of the remainder of the …
Be a skilled listener “Talk to me” is the motto for the New York City hostage negotiations team. When dealing with extremely …
Some people face conflict by becoming overbearing while others become overly accommodating. The key to problem-solving is to get away from focusing …
Next time one of your friends starts talking to you about another friend, you might just ask, “What would you like from …
“I am separated from my husband because I have reasons not to trust him. Also, despite my complaints, he is online texting …
Feeling anger vs. acting out of anger Feeling anger and acting out anger are two very different things. When you feel anger …
People often assume that they know what another person is thinking — and most often those assumptions are negative and wrong. “Mind-reading” …
Learning to lie Often children of overbearing, controlling or critical parents learn to hide their true feelings and intentions. They put on …
How do you tend to respond to your partner’s benign comments about the weather, the news, or your surroundings? Do you often …
“I met a man online and he was the pursuer. Now I’m pursuing him and he’s distancing. Near the beginning I asked …
Avoiding honest discussions about difficult issues No relationship is perfect. So one of the key ingredients in a long-term relationship is being …